1 Peter 3: Don’t Let Your Prayers Be Hindered

Today’s reading is 1 Peter 3.

Keep in mind, as Peter describes the home relationships, he continues his description of honorable behavior among the Gentiles from 1 Peter 2:11-12. Christians live honorably as citizens by submitting to the governing institution. Christians live honorably as slaves by submitting to their masters. Christians live honorably as wives by submitting to their husbands and paying more attention to their internal qualities than to their external appearance.

Christians live honorably as husbands by honoring their wives. They honor their wives by living with their wives in an understanding way. Perhaps the first way we live according to this principle is to avoid the jokes about how impossible it is to understand women. But, perhaps these jokes make a point. Men and women think and feel differently. We often value different things and prioritize different things. We tend to think the world would be better off if everyone else saw everything precisely as I do.

God, however, says we live honorably when we stop trying to force our wives to think like us, but instead strive to understand how they think and feel. This doesn’t mean we will automatically agree. But it is the better way to come to consensus and harmony in the home.

But then Peter explains the consequences. If we run roughshod over our wives, dominating, manipulating, controlling, our prayers are hindered. We are like the men of Isaiah 1:10-17. We may get the patterns of worship right, but because our “hands are full of blood,” God will hide His eyes from us and will not listen to our prayers though they are many.

Sadly, the stories of abusive husbands and fathers who dress nicely and put on a smile at church on Sunday are too rampant. That worship does no good for anyone, neither for ourselves, our God, or our families if we do not live with our wives in an understanding way, honoring them as weaker, precious vessels who deserve protection and care from us. We who have pledged our lives to our wives to love them, nourish them, and cherish them must honor them as fellow heirs with us.

Let us live honorably among the Gentiles showing them by our own behavior how to love our wives honorably.

Tomorrow’s reading is 1 Peter 3.

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Mark 10: Do Not Let Man Separate

Today’s reading is Mark 10.

It breaks my heart that more people are not taught what Jesus said about marriage before they get married. Many people seek Jesus, but are disheartened by His saying because they don’t hear it until they have made a wreck of their lawful marriages and found a wonderful but unlawful spouse. They come to Jesus like the rich man wondering how they can gain eternal life and Jesus says, “It is not lawful for you to have your spouse,” and they go away sorrowful.

Pay close attention to what Jesus says. The Pharisees ask, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” Jesus’s response, after He explains Moses’s concession in Deuteronomy 24:1-4, is “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”

Two things of note in this statement. First, Jesus’s answer to the Pharisees’ question is “No. It is not lawful for a man to divorce his wife.” Second, Jesus doesn’t say man is not capable of separating what God has joined together, but that man is not allowed to separate it.

This dispenses with two misunderstandings often espoused. First, Jesus did not permit divorce as long as the divorced do not remarry someone else. Jesus said we are not to separate a lawfully bound married couple. Second, man is able to separate what God has joined. When man separates them, they are separated. They are not still joined in some spiritual way. They are not still married in God’s eyes. According to Romans 7:1-3, they are bound to God’s marriage law regarding the original spouse. If they marry someone else, just as Jesus says, they will be adulterers. However, they are not bound to each other. They are not still married to the initial spouse in some way allowing them to somehow get divorced “for real” in God’s eyes later.

Yes, Matthew’s accounts of Jesus’s teaching on the matter provides an exception to these general rules regarding divorce on the grounds of sexual immorality (see Matthew 5:31-32; 19:9). While Mark’s account doesn’t include the exception, it does demonstrate Jesus’s comments on marriage apply whether the husband pursues the divorce or the wife.

For Jesus, marriage comes from creation. It was not something people came up with as societal benefit, political expedient, or emotional fulfillment. God made male and female, therefore marriage. God took from the side of the one man and made woman. These two that were separated can now be made one again. What God has made one, keep one.

Tomorrow’s reading is Mark 10.

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Psalm 128: Blessed are Those Who Dwell in the House of the Blessed

Today’s reading is Psalm 128.

Reading While Caught in Culture

Regrettably, we find it hard to separate ourselves from the cultural stream in which we swim. We are surrounded not by a culture wishing to right wrongs, correct excesses, find God’s right way, but by a culture rebelling against all that has gone before. We are surrounded by a pendulum-riding culture committed to opposing anything that resembles past generations. I bring this up specifically with this week’s reading because our modern, pendulum-swinging, rebel-against-all-that-precedes-us culture cannot see the blessing of Psalm 128.

The ancient culture of Israel was patriarchal. That is, the father/patriarch, led the family. The fortunes of the family rose and fell on the leadership of the father. Have many fathers through the generations abused that path? No doubt. Do course corrections need to made by many patriarchs? Obviously. But today, our culture doesn’t want to course correct, it wants to abolish the patriarchy. And actually, not only abolish patriarchy, but abolish patriarchs. That is, abolish fathers and fatherhood. If we are not careful, we will breathe in this cultural air, swim in this cultural stream, grow in this cultural soil (write your own cultural metaphor here) in such a way we will be unable to see the incredible blessing our pilgrim expounds in Psalm 128. I not only mean we won’t be able to see what the blessing is while reading the psalm, but also we won’t be able to see the blessing in our homes by living the psalm.

Those caught in the eddies of the present cultural whirlpool see a husband and father who is blessed because his wife has lots of children and his children all sit like prim and proper olive shoots around his table. They will see this as nothing more than a master of the house with a trophy wife and kids.

And that, of course, is no blessing at all.

As we get whirled around by the undercurrent of our present culture, we need to grab the lifeline thrown by God’s Word offering to draw us to safely read this psalm from the cultural perspective in which it was written. We find it hard to read Scripture from a cultural perspective placing more importance on family, tribe, and clan than on individual. First, we hardly know what is like to be part of a culture in which survival for anyone depends on everyone in the family and community working together every day to simply subsist. Second, we neglect this poem is the product of an Israelite mind in whom the very concept of a family struggling to have children but the promised blessing on Abraham is finally passed on by God granting the birth of a child is baked into their communal memory. Third, we forget we are reading a poem written from within a family which became a nation whose greatest hope was a coming Descendant who would crush the head of the serpent, be the ultimate Prophet and new Moses, reign as the ultimate King and new David, be the High Priest and new Melchizedek. Therefore, in our fixation on individuality and individualism we read this psalm as the story of three individuals–man, woman, child–but only one of them is blessed: the man. That is not true. This psalm presents a family. The whole family is blessed.

If we can escape the pull of our modern culture and read from the standpoint of that ancient near east, agrarian, tribal culture, we would see this psalm is not “patriarchal” at all. It is familial. This psalm doesn’t talk about how a man gets blessed by an oft-pregnant wife and smiley, happy children. This psalm talks about how a family–husband, father, wife, mother, brothers, sisters–is blessed.

To grasp the blessing in this psalm, we shouldn’t read it with modern debates and perspectives as the background, but the ancient perspectives. Think of Sarah, so desperate to have children she would be complicit in taking advantage of her handmaiden, Hagar, in order to claim she had children (Genesis 16). Recall Rachel crying to Jacob, “Give me children, or I shall die!” (Genesis 30:1, ESV). Think of Hannah weeping and fasting because she had no children, begging God to give her some (1 Samuel 1). In a culture thinking of children in this way, Psalm 128 falls into place. Sure, men in ancient Israel wanted fruitful wives and healthy children. But guess what. Women in ancient Israel wanted to be fruitful. And, surely, everyone wanted to be healthy–including children.

The blessing becomes clear. With those ancient perspectives and ancient goals in mind, we see the reciprocal nature of blessing and why the psalm begins, “Blessed is *everyone* who fears the LORD, who walks in his ways!” The man who feared the Lord and walked in His ways was blessed by having a fruitful wife and healthy children. But the woman was blessed to be fruitful by having a husband who feared the Lord. The wife was a blessing to the husband, yes. But the husband was also a blessing to the wife. The children were a blessing to the father, yes. But the father was also a blessing to the children. In other words, the woman who feared the Lord and walked in His ways would have the kind of husband that allowed the family to be blessed. Because this family was led by one who feared the Lord, the family was blessed.

And the true blessing to the family is found in the final verses of the psalm. We can hardly fathom this today. For us, we think of blessing as living in a nice house, having a nice retirement, living as long as possible. Whatever happens after that doesn’t matter to us. For the ancient Israelites, blessing meant the perpetuation of the Israelite nation until God brought about the blessings He promised on all through the seed of Abraham. In our psalm, because the man who fears the Lord is blessed, his whole family is blessed. Because the whole family is blessed, Jerusalem is blessed. Because Jerusalem is blessed, all Israel is blessed.

Of course, at this point, we need to recall under the New Covenant, Mt. Zion, Jerusalem, Israel are all fulfilled in Christ’s church. And this gets to the point we need to think about in our modern, individualistic, democratized culture. Do I only think of blessing selfishly as me getting blessed? Or do I see that my family and I fit in a bigger picture of Christ’s people? Do I see blessing as the mutual and reciprocal blessing among a group of people who fear the Lord and walk in His ways perpetuating Christ’s kingdom throughout the world and therefore blessing the whole world? All those who dwell in the house of the blessed are blessed.

Praise the Lord!

Tomorrow’s reading is Psalm 128.

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Stay Married

Today’s reading is Matthew 19.

It breaks my heart that most people today, even those raised in churches, do not hear or closely read Matthew 19:1-9 until it is too late. It is true, there is a larger lesson about humility and authority demonstrated by Jesus’s teaching on marriage in this passage. However, we must not miss Jesus’s pointed teaching on marriage here.

When two people are lawfully married, they are joined together by God. Man is not free to separate them for just any cause. Sadly, men and women have ended marriages with impunity for generations. But Jesus is pretty clear. If you divorce your spouse and marry someone else, you are committing adultery. This is not the law for Christian marriage. This is just God’s law for marriage. Marriage was instituted by God, not by civil governments. While we do follow the rules of civil governments to legally ratify or dissolve marriages, the ultimate law for marriage is God’s, not man’s. A civil government may declare a separation or a divorce, but God’s law still binds one man to one woman for life. If they marry anyone else, they are committing adultery.

Jesus does provide one exception. If someone puts their spouse away for the cause of sexual immorality and then marries someone else, it is not adultery.

Keep in mind, the original question Jesus was asked was, “Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?” Jesus’s answer is essentially, “No.” In other words, Jesus is telling you, “Stay married.” “But, my husband does such and such.” “Stay married.” “But if you only knew how my wife behaves.” “Stay married.”

Yes, I am well aware there are some pretty awful marriage situations. They break my heart. What is needed in those marriages is repentance and submission to Jesus, not further law-breaking. No, this teaching does not mean a person has to just sit there and take being physically abused. The options are not merely 1) Be abused and 2) Get divorced. That view is a false dilemma. Regrettably, it is not in the purview of a post such as this to dig into all the ins and outs of every possible situation and how to respond. But know simply this, Jesus did make one thing clear. Divorce is not the proper response.

Please, pass this on to as many people as you know. It breaks my heart to watch people abandon the gospel of Jesus because they discover His teaching about marriage too late. But be thankful for this teaching because this teaching is the mirror for how Jesus loves and is committed to His bride. Praise the Lord!

Tomorrow’s reading is Matthew 19.

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  1. What are your initial reactions to the chapter and the written devo above?
  2. If you have never been married, why is it important to learn this lesson about marriage now?
  3. If you are married, why is it important to learn this lesson about marriage now?
  4. If you have been divorced, why is it important to learn this lesson about marriage now?
  5. What do you think we should pray for and about in light of this chapter and today’s post?